Making the decision to contact a family lawyer can often feel overwhelming. We have compiled some useful practical advice below to help you make the most out of your first meeting with a family solicitor.
When should you engage a solicitor?
As early as possible. Even if you are not yet sure about whether you and your partner will separate, it doesn’t hurt to engage a solicitor at a very early stage. There are often practical considerations that we can suggest to set the foundation for a smoother separation and ultimately, a better outcome.
How should I prepare for the meeting?
If you are looking for advice on what is likely to happen in respect of the finances, make a list of the assets and liabilities that you and your partner have, as well as their likely values. We have a form that we send to new clients before the first meeting, which enables you to record this information in advance. This often makes for a more productive initial meeting.
If you are seeking advice in relation to the arrangements for your children, you will be asked about your child’s current routine, so make sure that you have this information to hand. It is also helpful to think about your long-term objectives, and make sure you communicate these to your solicitor during the meeting.
Regardless of whether your first meeting is to discuss finances, children, or both, it is a good idea to make a list in advance of any questions you want answered. If you are nervous or emotional, you may forget to ask key things, and noting them down in advance just helps ensure you leave the meeting feeling as well informed as possible.
Practical tips for during the meeting
During the meeting itself, consider the below tips to make the most out of your time with your solicitor:
- Take notes. You will get a lot of information during the meeting, and you may well be nervous and find that you don’t absorb the information well. Taking notes is a great way of retaining what your solicitor says, so that you can then reflect on the advice later.
- Be as open and honest as possible and don’t withhold any information from your solicitor. The advice you receive is only as good as the information on which it is based.
- Focus on the practical issues and try not to let emotions cloud your judgment. While it is undoubtedly a difficult and emotional time, your solicitor is there to give you practical and realistic advice on the law and what is likely to happen. Try to ensure that your instructions to your solicitor are clear and aren’t clouded by your emotions towards your ex-partner. If you need someone to talk to outside of friends and family about your emotions, we are happy to put you in touch with a divorce coach or therapist.
Rest assured – we are here to help
Many people often say that they dread the initial meeting with a solicitor, so if you are feeling this way, you are not alone. We are always happy to have a short phone call with you prior to any initial meeting, as we understand how important it is that you feel confident in your choice of family lawyer.
Ultimately, our job is to give you the best advice possible and ensure that you are clear on the legal and practical implications going forward. Rest assured that clients often report feeling much better after their initial meeting, and much more confident about their future and the process ahead.
For further information, please contact Liz Watson on lwatson@streathers.co.uk or call 020 7317 7237.
